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Michelle Valentine

 

The cutely named Valentine has been a professional matchmaker for more than 10 years. Her office is in Winter Park. 


Physical attraction is the Number One most important criterion. . . . That’s what helps create the chemistry.

Men look for women who take care of their looks, who are interesting, who are smart and who are fun.

The best places for singles to meet are places that are of interest to them. Also places where they can meet the type of person they are interested in meeting.  Of course, [meeting] through a matchmaker [works] because that’s an unbiased opinion of who’s going to be a best match for them.

Younger men are so much more interested in older women because younger men today are very, very ambitious. . . . When he’s with an older woman, she’s more experienced in life, she’s established, she’s interesting, she can communicate very well. In general, very successful younger men may not have anything in common with younger women. An older woman helps a younger man be more ambitious in life. It’s not all about sex.

An older woman is generally not looking for a younger man for a relationship. She is seeing if she still “has it.” She may be recently divorced. She may have had some physical alterations done. It’s the conquest.

When you have an older man with a much younger woman, sure she’ll date him because she gets lots of free fancy dinners and lots of free travel. He may be able to connect her a little bit more in her career. But in the long term she’s still fantasizing about the guys her age with the six-pack abs.

Women have a tendency to exaggerate their age lower and men have a tendency to exaggerate their income and height higher.

I definitely practice traditional courting practices. The man should be the one who asks the woman out. He picks her up and takes her out for a nice dinner, a nice little walk after dinner for conversation. None of this today, “Hey, you want to meet me for drinks after work?” None of this, “Hey, want to meet a group of my friends out?” That doesn’t allow for proper relationship beginnings.

Please tell the singles that what they really need to learn to do is to slow down. Everybody is in such a hurry to find love that they are making the wrong choices. . . . People are getting physically involved too quickly.

Friendship is what causes love to happen. Lust first does not cause love to happen.

[What’s her real name?] Yeah, like I am going to tell you that.

Jul 20, 2011 03:23 pm
 Posted by  Lady of Travel

I have been divorced for over 10 years. I've been in 2 long term relationships since. Both realtionships were good, but not fulfilling. I believe it is in part to what is being said in this post. It happened to fast, with no real courting. Next time, I hope to slow things down, and maybe I will find a fulfilling relationship.

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